A FAMILY, MEASURED IN DAYS TOGETHER

We imagine time as a line.
But love is lived in moments.

Choose the people who matter. Add the time you have already shared and how often you see each other now. Then turn an abstract future into something you can see.

Build your picture

MAKE IT YOURS

Start with the
people who matter.

Three simple details per person are enough to begin. The assumptions behind the estimate are there if you want them, but they stay out of your way.

THE STORY SO FAR

For 24 years,
home meant together.

1992–2016 South Africa

2016–now United Kingdom

LEFT HOME, AGE 24

Living together made time feel unlimited. Since moving, those years have narrowed to 21 days together in every 365.

Past time is shown as co-resident days, not a claim that every day was meaningful time together.

THE TAIL END

Now count what
may remain.

Each grid below is one typical year. Every square is roughly one week: coloured squares are time together and dark squares are time apart. The large number totals your estimated days together across all the years that may remain.

LIFESPAN SCENARIO

Uses the planning ages you entered

Edit people or visit rhythm ↑

THE WHOLE RELATIONSHIP

All the in-person time.
Past and future.

Each square is 1% of the estimated time you may ever spend together in person.

Already spent May remain

WHY THE TAIL IS SO SHORT

One year at a time

These smaller grids show how your visits fit inside each future year.

PUT IT ANOTHER WAY

All the remaining time,
compressed into one stay.

THE PART YOU CAN CHANGE

Distance is fixed.
Frequency isn’t.

One additional visit each year does not change anyone’s lifespan. It changes how much of that lifespan overlaps with yours in the same room.

AT TWO 21-DAY VISITS A YEAR

+1,273 additional days together across all three relationships

READ THIS PART

This is a lens,
not a prediction.

Each person’s central horizon uses the planning age set for them. The shorter and longer views subtract or add five years. This makes the assumption visible and editable rather than presenting a population average as a personal forecast.

Past time combines years under one roof with the current visit rhythm for the years since the longest shared-home period. Future time applies that rhythm to the selected planning horizon. Health, family history, future medicine, chance, and your own lifespan are not modelled.

Your age: 34
Longest shared home: 24 years
Current pattern: 1 × 21-day visit / year
People included: 3

Reference data for choosing a planning age: UN World Population Prospects 2024, via Our World in Data. Female table. Latest observation: 2023. Calculations rounded for readability.

We imagine time as a line.But love is lived in moments.

Start with thepeople who matter.

For 24 years,home meant together.

Now count whatmay remain.

All the in-person time.Past and future.